Saying “No” Is Okay

There has been a lot of controversy on the topic of rape. Rape is when a person forces sexual interaction with a person who did not consent to it. It does not always have to be sexual intercourse. Anything that you are force to do against YOUR will or ANYONE’S will can be classified as rape and/or molestation; both of which are wrong. I feel as if some people are overlooked when it comes to rape. A lot of people have boyfriends, girlfriends, best friends, husbands, or wives; and they might want to have sex with their significant other or even just sexual interaction, while the other party may not be feeling like giving it up. I want to clarify something, it does NOT matter if that person and their significant other has had sex many times before, if they say no, that’s it. Their request should be respected and that should be the end of that. You can say no to whomever you’d like, regardless of who that person is. Everyone has the right to say no. Everyone. It does not matter if you have had consensual sex with that person before multiples times, one time, or not at all yet. It is considered rape if that person was to deny another entrance to their body and they were forced to have sexual relations. No means no. No means no when you are married, in a relationship, and single.  One of my past relationships was toxic and I used to have consensual sex with him.  I didn’t want to be with him any longer and he forced me to stay when we were both miserable. But he would always make or force me to have sex with him. That is rape. He scared me. I said no and he didn’t care. When I started to say no; he would cry, or guilt me, threaten, or blackmail me. Then after awhile he got aggressive with me. But I kept thinking that it wasn’t rape, because he was my boyfriend. I was wrong. It was rape. It doesn’t matter who that person is to you; rape is rape, no is no. He forced me to do things I didn’t want to do and it tore me up. I was just an object to him, and I didn’t feel much good for anything else. No one should feel like that. Whatever state you are in when you say no, doesn’t matter. I have been drunk and high and I still said no to a friend of mine, but that didn’t stop him from entering my body without my consent. No one should ever think twice about saying no. It doesn’t matter who that person is to you or what they’ve done for you. You are the one who dictates what you and your body want, no one else. It’s okay to say no.